seconding the "characterizes jade as a perpetual child", adding people relegating kanaya (and by extension rose) as purely existing to be a "mom friend" while ignoring that kanaya only really behaves in that kind of mothering way (and its still more in a fussing over and annoying you kind of way than the idealized way people portray it) towards people she's got feelings for like rose or vriska (and karkat apparently according to hussie)