There is, however, a larger discussion, I think, about how people experience media that is problematic, and our tendency to want to sweep the problematics of it under the rug.

Yeah, like my experience is sometimes the discussions around the slur replacer mod are coming from a place of "not wanting to actually deal with and acknowledge the slurs" rather than actually talking about ableism and I am not benefited from people going "well we have a mod so we don't have to talk about the pervasive normalized ableism at the time and how it shows up in homestuck"