Honestly I agree with most of what you've said here, I think the biggest point I agree on is that jade's transness needs to abandon the hushed tone
its not like people have never been uncomfortable with telling their family about being trans but it would be better if at some point on screen we get jade explicitly saying she's transfem.
I do think epilogues jade is actually handled fairly well at least on the front that isn't being unconscious and controlled for half the story (and I've mentioned enough times how deeply she resonated with me)but I do think going forward it would just be a better choice to have it laid out.