trans/nonbinary chill zone

Great thread! :)

Nonbinary person here, agenderflux more specifically ( https://gender.fandom.com/wiki/Agenderflux ). I often tell people that if "masculine" was a blue planet and "feminine" a pink planet (to take a simple, stereotypical gendered palette), my planet would be grey with outer rings of fluctuating colours. That's the simplest way for me to explain it.

Something I want to say from the get-go is there is no wrong way to be transgender.

Both as a binary or nonbinary person, you can:

- You can get hormonal therapy and "all" kinds of surgery.

- You can get hormonal therapy and no surgery.

- You can get surgery and no hormonal therapy.

- You can get top surgery and not bottom surgery.

- You can get bottom surgery and no top surgery.

- You can get microdosing.

- You can get specific hormonal balances.

- You can get local applications of hormones in order to induce different changes in different parts of your body.

- You can get salmacian bottom surgery ("both" sets of genitals).

- You can get nullification bottom surgery (no genitals).

And very importantly, you can get no hormonal therapy and no surgery. YOU DON'T NEED GENDER DYSPHORIA, GENDER EUPHORIA OR MEDICAL INTERVENTIONS TO BE TRANSGENDER.

A transgender person is a person in inadequation with their assigned gender at birth. That's all. That's everything a trans person is.

Hello there. Nonbinaryism. You agree. Reblog

Eyoooo hi other NB's

I'm intersex and have had a weird relationship with gender since I was young, I identified as NB before psycholonials but it definitely gave me a totally different point of view on my gender (and gender in general) and kinda opened my eyes about the feelings I've had. Also as someone who is masc presenting I've struggled a not insignificant amount with dysphoria relating to being seen as 'mannish' that I've been dealing with lately.

also nonbinary . i wanna go on T eventually but living in texas makes that tricky. also i have other medical stuff that takes precedent over my trans stuff but my family is very supportive . not perfect but they try. with my own form of expression ii like combining both Feminine and Masculine traits when drawing myself . which usually means a nerd emoji freak with a funny mustache and a bosom . thats me :o) bottom surgery would be wonderful but i'd rather not go through surgery again for a good long while. my transgenderness. its certainly effected how i go about making characters who are also trans, ii tend to make them look unconventional/gnc because thats how i like looking . etc etc

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agender here. ive always described my gender as "none with left masc" and that is still true now. also i like the agender flag its awesome

I'm really glad to see all of you cozying into the zone so quickly!

@oasis_nadrama thank you for this! I'm running a bit low on sleep at the moment and I didn't think to mention any of that lol.

as they said, there's no wrong way to be trans. my gender situation has gone all over the place throughout my life and that's very normal. what's most important is just being comfy and happy with who you are, whatever it is. people will always try to tell you you're wrong for being you, no matter who you are, so all you can really do is be yourself and love deeply and loving people will find their way to you :)

trans guy here. i live in a conservative asian country and i really don't have any plans to "come out" publicly officially because of that

but my family knows i keep my hair short, wear masculine clothes, etc. and they kinda just think i'm a "lesbian" even if that's not the right label. i don't really care that much because it'll probably be hard for them to understand anyways and make it worse. so i hope every trans/nb person can learn to accept and love themself even if other people couldn't. it took a long time but i'm here now and i'm happy!

hewwooo I’m dragon. like in both an otherkin sense and gender sense it’s like intertwined

normally there’d be a really cool essay that changed So much for me that I would link here since it explains things better than I can but the website it was on went offline a while back. so… uh.. yea?

I don’t really do much presentation wise irl both because of circumstance for things I can in theory do and because the ideal self is not possible with current scientific progress. so it goes.

I’ve been using “derg” as the like “boy/girl” to dragon as is to man/woman but still workshopping that

i'm a trans man and i've known for a while. i'm unable to start T right now and don't know when i'll be able to. I guess I need advice on waiting. the worst part of being trans is, all the waiting for your life to really begin and to really feel like yourself. I'm confident in my identity, but I don't really feel like my true self. how do you wait to feel like you're you? I hope this doesn't come across as me whining about my problems but I could really use some hope, as a trans teen who feels a bit scared in these uncertain times.

@maydazed

my advice is going to come in the form of a little story

so, I mentioned in the original post that I've been on estrogen since I was 15. at the time, I honestly thought I was completely fucked, I was convinced that I'd ruined my life because I waited a few years into puberty to come out to my parents. not only is it kind of embarrassing in retrospect because I actually started really young, but also I've met a lot of people who started way later in life who look absolutely incredible! there's genuinely no point in life where you're too late to start being yourself, and while it's incredibly frustrating dealing with roadblocks, I can assure you that you will eventually be on the other end of it all!

my advice in the meantime is to do all that you can. even if it seems stupid, any little thing that makes you feel more comfortable and more you is worth doing. I only started wearing skirts around the house earlier this year, I always saw it as Not Worth It because I wasn't going anywhere, but it's been really nice! there's a lot of tiny things you can do to make things easier, and all of it is worth doing imo

it's important to remember that despite how the world can make it seem, you've got a whole life ahead of you. it will most certainly be hard throughout, but there is always love to be found that can make it easier. don't give up!

Trans femme here! I transitioned when I was like 20 and in college and it was right around the same time I read Homestuck actually lol

I've been on hormones for 6 years but still kinda struggle with my presentation. "Fashion" doesn't make much sense to me and I struggle to present as femme as I wanna, at least in my own eyes.

I've also lately been really struggling with getting bottom surgery. Here in Buffalo the one place that does vaginoplasty stopped doing it so! Y'know, cool. Thankfully there are other places in New York 'sides from tha big apple that do it :P

I'm transfem, but I'm still mostly in the closet IRL. I just recently came out to my Mom, and it went really well. I haven't told anyone else I know yet. When the next semester starts soon I'm planning to get involved with trans groups at my college which will probably make fully transitioning publicly easier.

Transmasc and nb here too! I've been on t for 6 years now, and I have like. A progressive list of identities I disclose based on how much the person I'm talking to understands about trans stuff:

- trans man (what I usually use for cis people if I need to talk about it)

- nonbinary

- polygender

- kuiperian (final boss, made from the galactian gender system)

I am a transfem nonbinary butch! I first started transitioning around age 16 in high school, but I finally got on DIY HRT little over two years ago.

I joke that I transitioned twice. First from male to female, then from female to Butch. Re-embracing masculinity and making it mine, and being able to provide the appeals of it to others in a way that doesn't make me miserable has been very important to me.

I could talk for hours about butch identity, and how it intersects with my transness, and how amazing it feels to be something that feels quintessentially me. And I most certainly will at some point. It is not just my aesthetic, it's also my gender, and furthermore, my sexuality too.

@duckbuster thank you for the advice!! i feel like i tend to get really in my head sometimes but i mean i've kept pushing this long, right? :) it is so reassuring to hear about people making it and being able to live as they've wanted. one day i will, too.

@chthonikix

being butch is like the coolest thing anyone can be (if they wanna be) (the actual coolest thing anyone can be is themselves) (but like) (you know)

I'd love to hear about your perspective if you're down to type up an essay or two

@prospit

that's so fucking real though lmfao

trans female here! not on hrt because of life complications at the moment but im out to most of my friends and my mom knows. much to her chagrin.

it feels a little bad not being able to perform as my true self at work or even generally in public. but i am so proud of all the trans women that make it work!! im working up the courage to transition socially to the fullest extent

lovely to see a lot of non binary and trans masc people on this thread. i identified as agender for two years before i found out i was just a girl. whoops x)

i dont have much else to add but id love to make other trans friends!

I'm a trans wwoman, and I've been on E for a little over a year, iirc? I cant lie, it hasn't really changed much about my life. My friends refer to me by a different name and I'm happier, but I frequently forget that I am even trans for days or wweeks at a time. It's a nice place to be in, I think.

I believe my only hurdle to passing at this point is voice training. I am, unfortun8ly, exceptionally lazy, so I have not done it yet. That wwill hopefully change soon!

Nonbinary here. 👋

Alas, my workplace doesn't lend well to any substantial efforts regarding transitioning (it's a care home ran by a conservative christian family), so I'm not even allowed to consider trying T. I can barely get away with wearing button-up plaid shirts there. What's worse is they expect me to observe/follow feminine beauty expectations that I want no part of. I fucking hate it.

Technically I'm in a very supportive state, but with the place I'm stuck working at, that barely means anything for me in practice. My parents are "accepting", but don't really think much of it. Heck, my mom doesn't even consider me to be transgender! It's bad enough that she rarely ever uses my pronouns.

Just for once I want to be taken seriously when it comes to my gender while offline.