"Transfem" is used to describe people who were coercively assigned male at birth, and are transitioning away from that. It does not mean "trans and feminine." If you object to this terminology, I do not care because I didn't come up with it. Please direct your complaints to some queer studies person who lives in a university or whatever, because you COULD be the person who comes up with a word that is so deliciously inclusive and intuitive, that nobody will ever have to answer tedious questions about ever again. And that would make my life SO much easier.