My gender is basically agender catgirl or a genderless catgirl. I distance myself from gender because everything I tried gave me dysphoria and so I got frustrated one night, snuck on my DS internet browser and looked up "what word means without gender?" on Google and boom threw mine out the window. Catgirl is more the aesthetic and vibes I exude, agender is the core lack of gender for me; so, I relate to some of the stuff you said here in not having my gender taken seriously as I use the term women for myself jokingly or in cis-dominated settings or people use she/her for me because of my appearance when I'm a they/them mostly. Idk I'm rambling, just want you to know you're seen. 💜