hi! i've been handling most of the interactions between the mod team and the user in question, and i'm the one who asked the big question if she was willing to wait it out for a bit.

the original plan was to just hold down the fort, ban people who harass her apropos of nothing, but that was obviously a failing measure. so we did have to think about what to do, but nobody actually wanted her gone. even asking her to lay low and step out temporarily wasn't done lightly. it's not an easy thing to ask, either as a mod or a friend. as a mod, she has done nothing wrong. as a friend, she is a fucking delight, and the server would be worse without her.

but it was a question i was asked to pose, in part because i think it'd be easier to hear it from a friend, and because it is an option. it is the extreme option. and then she said no, and i think she's right to have done so. truth be told, i wouldn't have been happy if she had said yes to leaving. it's a bullshit half-measure that would have emboldened the worst of the worst. while i can't speak for the entire mod team, i agree with her decision to hold that line. we have to be able to protect our most vulnerable users, and if that means saying "the discord server is not safe for trans women, who can draw the ire of a hateful mob by doing nothing at all", that's a totally acceptable move to me. she would be right to do so.

there are so many smoking fucking craters in this fandom where trans women used to be, and they were some of the most dedicated and talented people i've ever known. we cannot be doing that again and again, until none remain.

and since this is still a public forum, if anyone here wants to believe smear campaigns, know this: it is greatly overstated at best, and outright fabrications with intent to smear an alleged enemy at worst. i have been through the predator blender multiple times with my time in fandoms. i was 15 during homestuck's heyday and then i immediately got into the nascent danganronpa fandom. fandom isn't kind to children, and i live in the long shadow of that every single day. the things that people just got away with in the old days is shit that can't happen again. that does matter to me. and if you can't trust her word, trust mine.