I'll try to respond more eloquently manner when I'm less tired. I'll be resting soon so everyone behave on this post please. Real quick though I agree about the nsfw channel @elegantspinstress (it's a little awkward having to skirt around canon topics just because they're 18+ themed especially in beyond canon though the jokes there are kinda like blurring the lines due to the inherent adult nature of the subject matter lol). Also thank you @alexis and @victoria for your open honest responses and victoria for coming forward, though we are both strangers to one another, one of my transfem friends trusts your response so I trust in it too and want to respond properly later since I'm now privy to new context that changes things quite a lot and explains the post update.

Also yes people, please don't believe nonsensical smear campaigns, I was part of a discord one with my trans at-the-time partners, it was bad and actually co-opted by a real creep who was waiting for us the responsible adults to get banned so he could swoop in and prey on one of our youngster ex-friends who was too afraid to speak up for us because that friend group was run like a witch hunt where only yes-people were allowed which was a breeding ground for that guy's type because he knew how to play yes-men. I won't share any of their names from that incident but iykyk if you know me or my partner and ex-partner well enough. My TMA partner and I were the primary hate targets in that too while our TME partner was "cut more slack." Yes, I'm serious. This shit is so often motivated by transmisogyny.