I am a Lolita who loves Lolita fashion a lot, but I often use the term EGL (Elegant Gothic and Lolita) instead. So I just chose elegantSpinstress because it has elegant in it, and a "Spinstress" is someone who spins yarn or makes lace, lol. Also, it is an old-timey, mean word to call an unmarried woman. I always liked the women in books who were "Spinsters" or "Spinstresses" because they are very lesbian coded to me, which is also what I am.