i can not stress enough that there is no general accepted internet definition of proship. there are certainly a number of topics that fall under that ambiguous blanket more often than not but to some people that also means like. characters who engage in slapstick comedy. Why do I use that as a specific example? Well because one of the very first times I heard this term thrown around was at myself. For liking Crow/Aion, a ship in the sanrio franchise Show By Rock of two bandmates in a visual kei group who, mostly in the anime less so in the games, tend to get involved in rambunctious teasing and slapstick bits. Apparently a character hitting another in any context, regardless of how over-the-top and cartoony and Made By Sanrio The Hello Kitty People it is, is abuse and Should not be Shipped ever. Who knew! However, i think you may be able to see how if someone was more vindictive and petty they could simply leave out the context of exactly what the ship that I enjoy is and make a big fluffed up callout post about me, and then I'd be in quite hot water wouldnt I? It is a bit of a "I don't like you so I will call you this" kind of term you know? it is that ambiguity that has caused a lot of trouble for completely decent folks.

And as pointed out, the dichotomy leverages on pure black and white thinking. There is nothing wrong with discussing darker topics like incest or sexual assault, if no one ever talked about them at all then it'd be all the harder for people to find the words and understanding to ask for help. And in a less serious matter theres works (such as yaknow Homestuck) that engages with these topics and like. It'd be kinda silly to banish anyone who decided to directly quote that "cats dont care about that kinda stuff" conversation to the shadow realm. When it comes to any forum or small/indie social media site/even discord servers the question isnt "do they allow proship or not" its "do you, yourself, trust the mods to make the right call in knowing the difference between discussion and unsolicited erotica." How much you can trust any mod team is key in many matters. In my opinion and experience is that its Fine if theres one mod you just cant stand it'd be foolish to expect perfection and nothing else, However! If its a majority of the mod staff you dont care for, find them to flaunt their power, or just dont seem to have good heads on their shoulders.... Get outta there! Skedaddle before its too late!

So to answer the question: yes, but also no. its meaningless, you see