Like usual, the words of Autumn are carrying all of the truth and wisdom of the world.

"Pro-ship vs. Anti-ship" is a textbook example of a made-up tension, a completely artificial conflict that does not solidly relate to any serious approach to fiction writing, fanfiction writing, fandom activity or media literacy.

The reason for that is simple: the entire matter relies on what is understood as "problematic". Roughly speaking, "Pro-ship" means "I support/accept all kinds of ships even if they are problematic" and "Anti-ship" is "Problematic ships? YOU SHALL NOT PASS.

But everyone has a different definition of "problematic". Like Autumn said, for some people, splastick comedy is enough to label the ship as problematic. Some people will accept incest but not 20 years old dating 26 years old. Other people will denounce a person of a privileged category dating a person of an oppressed category. Etc etc. It's an everchanging minefield.

So I don't think the mods can give you an answer here, because they are operating by more definable moral standards.

Additionally.

When you lived through the 1990s-2000s Evangelion Ship Wars, when Shinji's canonical romance choices were between 1. a quite violent and ill-tempered tsundere with incredible mommy issues, 2. a clone of his mother groomed by his father, 3. a spy of dubious canonicity (Mana Kirishima), 4. the most perfect boy but alas a million years old soul (PROBLEMATIC AGE GAP!!!!) and also in the manga he kills a cat...

All of these considerations make you laugh endlessly.